The Ugly Truth

People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty. ~Richard J. Needham


Why is it so hard to be honest with your loved ones? This is something I have always had an issue with. I am a delicate, sympathetic, and emotional type of girl so I know a little too much about these types of situations. I've always wanted what was best for my friends and even boyfriends, but at the end I am the one that ends up hurt. So why is that?

Yesterday I got a phone call from a co worker who has also become a good friend of mine. She is dealing with depression and feels like she can't get out of her current living situation. She cries over and over, feeling like no one appreciates or loves her. I am always finding ways to strenghten her spirits by offering good advice, and even willing to help her get things accomplished. But the minute I tell her the truth, everything I say goes out of the window. She has to go, and she has this sulky tone of voice. What did I say wrong? Was I not supposed to be sincere?

Truth is...we don't want to know the truth. When we call someone and put our feelings out there we don't really want recommendations. We just want someone to hear us out for that moment of time. Honesty kills us when we know better. So in some cases, I don't say anything. I listen but won't agree, disagree, or even suggest any alternatives. I let it be and hope that one day they will come to their senses.

So my suggestion for the day: Don't always be honest. It is not always necessary to express your dislikes with candor. Listening in silence is acceptable sometimes when you don't want to ruin your relationships with others. Keep in mind that keeping your mouth shut can sometimes get you further. So be a good listener and realize that some people are never going to want to hear the ugly truth.

Well that's it for the night. Today has not been the best but I am still here right? Much love to everyone and I will see you tomorrow!