The Ugly Truth

People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty. ~Richard J. Needham


Why is it so hard to be honest with your loved ones? This is something I have always had an issue with. I am a delicate, sympathetic, and emotional type of girl so I know a little too much about these types of situations. I've always wanted what was best for my friends and even boyfriends, but at the end I am the one that ends up hurt. So why is that?

Yesterday I got a phone call from a co worker who has also become a good friend of mine. She is dealing with depression and feels like she can't get out of her current living situation. She cries over and over, feeling like no one appreciates or loves her. I am always finding ways to strenghten her spirits by offering good advice, and even willing to help her get things accomplished. But the minute I tell her the truth, everything I say goes out of the window. She has to go, and she has this sulky tone of voice. What did I say wrong? Was I not supposed to be sincere?

Truth is...we don't want to know the truth. When we call someone and put our feelings out there we don't really want recommendations. We just want someone to hear us out for that moment of time. Honesty kills us when we know better. So in some cases, I don't say anything. I listen but won't agree, disagree, or even suggest any alternatives. I let it be and hope that one day they will come to their senses.

So my suggestion for the day: Don't always be honest. It is not always necessary to express your dislikes with candor. Listening in silence is acceptable sometimes when you don't want to ruin your relationships with others. Keep in mind that keeping your mouth shut can sometimes get you further. So be a good listener and realize that some people are never going to want to hear the ugly truth.

Well that's it for the night. Today has not been the best but I am still here right? Much love to everyone and I will see you tomorrow!

Fresh Face

"Let your mind start a journey thru a strange new world. Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before. Let your soul take you where you long to be...Close your eyes let your spirit start to soar, and you'll live as you've never lived before"--Eric Fromm

First off... I would like to thank everyone who has taken time out of their busy day to view my blog. It feels good to finally open up to everyone publicly without hiding behind a bush. Writing has become the love of my life over time and my only way to escape all the trouble and pain I have felt so far. I am most definitely open to comments,questions, and concerns so if you have anything to say please post it! I won't take anything to the heart(ok that's a lie, i am actually quite sensitive), but I guess I have to man up huh? LOL

I've titled this blog Fresh Face because I am new to this and what's better than a newbie? I am also a make up fanatic so I look at this blog as a way to see me underneath it all, bare faced, and with every flaw exposed. For years I've had a lot of trouble dealing with my insecurities and now I am willing to let it all go. I hope to console and encourage others to do the same by attempting to "think outside the box". Don't be the average man/woman...be who you want to be. Don't get caught up in the media and what's "in" because you will never find out who you are.

So I am ready for take off! This was just the beginning baby! More will come later...matter of fact, I hope you will check on me tomorrow. I should have a good topic for you guys to enjoy!

With all the love possible!!--Leah
P.S. I will put a quote at the beginning of every blog...I want you to really read it! It means something! ( that goes to all you skimmers:-))